Word Press Bloggers-Beware, No More Free Lunch

I like playing around with different looks for my blog, selecting an enticing theme and hitting the apply button.  When viewing a possible makeover, I ponder where I want the side bar, how many columns I need, and which colors will make my blog pop.  Today, I was exploring Word Press themes, as encouraged by the change appearance button, and to my surprise and dismay, found that when I hit apply, I could not retrieve my original blog page.  I could get the content, but none of my sidebar widgets, and I had lost the ability to customize anything unless (and here it is)  I chose to buy the ability to customize.  So, boys and girls, the good old days of free custom blogging sites with WordPress are gone, even when using free blog themes.  Before you go exploring, get your credit card out.  It’s going to cost you at least $30.00.  I suppose the free ride was too good for too long and I, for one, didn’t fully appreciate what I was getting for nothing.  That being said, I am all about making profit on great ideas and products, but please, guys, no more surprises!

There is a Word for It – only it’s not English

Searching for connection, I found a place,

A country, an inner domain,  a word.

A word not spoken with native tongue.

A condition rarely lived, yet highly desired.

It’s meaning:  balanced, content, satisfied.

Dare I say, almost un-American?

Not too much, nor too little, just right.

A Goldilocks kind of chair, bowl, bed,

With just enough to share.

Discovered on a Swede’s blog,

Pronounced on a wiki-link,

Lagom.

Imaginary Friends and Virtual Visitors

I don’t remember having imaginary friends when I was a kid. It’s fascinating to hear my daughter describe my grandson’s. The more she tells me about his little make-believe kingdom, the more I can see parallels to my own little cyber-world.

  • grandson has real friends
  • Grandmother has actual friends
  • grandson has invisible friends
  • Grandmother has virtual visitors
  • grandson spends too much time playing make-believe
  • Grandmother spends too much time on computer
  • grandson is the hero in his kingdom
  • Grandmother is the hero in her blogging stories
  • grandson controls the moves and actions of his armies
  • Grandmother controls which words go out and when

Now, my grandson would never substitute his real friends for his imaginary ones, and neither would I. Actual friends obviously have it all over the virtual ones. It’s good to share coffee, hugs, tears, meals, music, baseball cards, laughter and life with people who have “skin on”.

But our virtual friends have their good qualities too:

  • They visit, but never stay too long
  • They allow us to spill out the drama of our lives, and never interrupt
  • They check our like button *
  • They can be taken out and put away whenever we want
  • They believe all of our stories
  • They take us to their imaginary worlds
  • They are available 24/7
  • They don’t care if we stretch the truth
  • They encourage us to keep playing
  • They like us *
  • They let us be whomever we want

It’s a grand thing to understand this shared passion of fantasy with my brilliant, imaginative, inquisitive, creative, grandson.

I may not have understood the wonder of this kind of world when I was a child or when I was in my adult phase of life; “Ah, but I was so much older then, I’m younger than that now.” (Bob Dylan)

* Like box refers to grandmother’s virtual visitors, not grandson’s imaginary friends. Button Located Below.