The Haircut

My grandson’s curls are running over his ears and away from the barber’s scissors.  My mind quickly shifts to a few years back.  I can see my college age son looking with understanding as I struggle to keep back the tears.  I was watching his hair fall off his head and onto the floor.  His features were subtly changing even as I knew he would be changed. He was getting a new short hair cut to last the many months he would be spending in India where the temperatures soar.  Could he sense that I knew how hard this would be for him and how terribly I would miss him and how proud I was of him?
 
I silently thanked God that I did not have to watch the heads of my sons being shaved before they went off to war and I thought of all the mothers, wives and girlfriends that did.  When my husband was 19 and headed for Viet Nam, did he have anyone there who mourned the loss of his fine gold hair?
 
I have collected and stored the times I have watched my husband get his hair cut, looking so regal sitting up there on that throne in his robe with the Velcro collar. His barber tends to his grooming as he communicates a secret message to my soul when he catches me looking at him. I reflect on my good fortune to have captured the heart of such a man and he looks to see my reaction to his cut.  I nod in approval.
 
 My dad never called it getting a hair cut but getting your ears lowered and when you get older, getting your ears lowered also means getting the wire-like hairs in your ears trimmed as well.  Sometimes, a shave or an eyebrow trim is also part of the ritual and I can watch all this as an observer sipping on a small coke (in the bottle) that comes from an ancient machine, a familiar and friendly fixture in Tommy’s barber shop.  All is handsome and masculine, masculine and handsome; even the newspapers, sports magazines, conversations and TV programs.  I wonder if the phantom of the barbershop finds the few wives and/or moms an intrusion.
 
My oldest son, now married, always hated going to the barbershop. His coaches would say that his hair was too long and not to come back to practice until he got it cut. So, he would reluctantly have it trimmed.   I remember the time that he and his friend died their dark curls, “blonde”. They both came down the stairs grinning and looking quite ridiculous with the Clairol shade 107 box in the bathroom trashcan and their hair an unnatural shade of red.  The kids at school affirmed the new look, loved it in fact, because their friends loved them.  But, Stephen’s mother was not amused and had him shave off the Ronald McDonald coif.
                                                                                           
I remember a boy in my junior high school who defied a strict hair code policy by growing his gorgeous blonde hair to the top of his shoulders.  He was told he could not return to school unless he cut his hair.  He did not return to school.  I missed that boy. Then there were the two boys in high school that I went out with a few times.  One wore his hair in a pony tail, the other in a “fro.”  My dad hated them both.  I liked them both.
 
Watching the scissors snip and sculpt, I hear the tick and toc and see my sons as young boys, beautiful and free, wide-eyed and enchanting.  Even when they were toddlers I would tear up every time that I took them to the barbershop.  I sensed from the beginning that a barber shop is a place of sacred memories.  I flash back to their first haircut when they cried big crocodile tears and had to sit up on a special booster seat within the big chair.  They came out looking like little rascals’ characters, all slick and combed back. They were rewarded with  lollipops which took some time to select and then  moved quickly on as bigger boys to buzzes and crew cuts, straight hair and curly and I remember all the times that haircuts were mandatory for special days like proms and weddings and Big Daddy’s funeral.
 
I hear the sound of a silver bar that gets stepped on to pump the chair up and up and then a hiss when the chair moves back down. The flap of the cape snaps the present into focus as the barber removes it from the freshly pinked neck. I see the spray mister bottle and the soft fluffy oversized make-up brush that can release the smell of my talc-sweetened
Grandfather and I am transported, momentarily into Papaw’s lap, breathing him in.
 
The lives of all the men I adore rotate as the barber ceremoniously spins the chair around to show my grandson his new look, both front and back.  He grins his tooth-less smile as I shallow hard and bite the corner of my cheek.